Wednesday, May 22, 2013

The power of words

Hurt feelings are never fun... ever... Being a woman ,emotion tends to run much higher than men. Being 5 months pregnant, emotions run to astronomical proportions and seem to be so much harder to control. Right now, I tend to cry when someone uses the wrong tone with me. It takes every amount of strength to not cry when people are either intentionally or unintentionally being mean. I kind of feel like a kindergartener does on the play ground. It tends to be awful, I can only imagine my poor husband who has to comfort this mess almost on a daily basis. Bless his heart.

But today, as I sat sobbing my eyes out God leaned in. Did you know he even understands this mess I make. The hurt and pain from careless words? He understands because He created me.
 "For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.  

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[b]
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.

My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.

Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them." Psalm 139:13-16


And in my hurt and pain, he brought me words of life. He shared His divine grace and love. He showered down acceptance and understanding. He gave comfort to a hurt spirit.
He showered wisdom. I could retaliate with my hurt, spewing anger, pain and bitterness that come out when our pride hurts and our feelings have been damage. Feeling defeated, that option sounded better. But the Holy Spirit prompted me to take a second and look. Would that accomplish anything? Would hurting or belittling the offender make the situation better?  Would anything I had to say bring glory back to Jesus? Christ is teaching me that even if I am defending my situation, even if I am right 100% it still isn't going to prove anything to anyone who doesn't want to hear the truth. Jesus presented the truth continuously, and yet men still didn't believe Him.
 
Words are powerful things. The Bible says in Proverbs 3 " Careful words make for a careful life; careless talk may ruin everything."  . The Lord granted me these 3 beauties who watch me for everything. Especially how I react to certain situations. Think for a moment, how many times we as parents used careless words and deeply hurt our children. How many temper tantrums and tears flow out of defense for the words used. 
We are our children's lives. They look to us for guidance, help, nurturing and love. They look up with their wide eyes to see how to behave when something goes wrong.

Today, as I sat crying, they didn't understand. They asked, and I told them someone hurt my heart that's all. Words can either build up or break down. They have the ability to speak life or death."Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.: Proverbs 18:21
Did you know the Bible considers our tongue to be vial? In James,  it talks about the power of our tongue and it's wickedness.
 "And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God.  Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.
James 3:6-12

Here are just a few other examples the Bible gives about the evil tongue.

"They speak idly everyone with his neighbor; With flattering lips and a double heart they speak.
May the Lord cut off all flattering lips,
And the tongue that speaks proud things,Who have said,
“With our tongue we will prevail;
Our lips are our own;
Who is lord over us?” Psalm 12:2-4


"Keep your tongue from evil,
And your lips from speaking deceit." Psalm 34:13


[ Prayer for Wisdom and Forgiveness ] [ To the Chief Musician. To Jeduthun. A Psalm of David. ] I said, “I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me.” Psalm 39:1

"You give your mouth to evil, And your tongue frames deceit." Psalm 50:19
"Your tongue devises destruction, Like a sharp razor, working deceitfully." Psalm 52:2
 "They sharpen their tongues like a serpent; The poison of asps is under their lips. Selah" Psalm 140:2
 "The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, But the perverse tongue will be cut out." Proverbs 10:31

 "The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness." Proverbs 15:2
There are literally pages upon pages of scripture dealing with the tongue. Children watch. They learn by watching your behavior, your reaction, your emotion. That is how they learn. Watching our character, wanting to give a godly example and telling our kiddos to be like Jesus all while having a bitter, hurt spirit makes us hypocrites. We need to walk the walk so they learn to walk in our steps.  

The band Hawk Nelson wrote a song about the power of words. I challenge you to be mindful with what you speak. In so many circumstances it is better to be silent. For silence can speak louder than any word you could ever utter.  Let Gods voice and His words echo in our speech. Let His words flow from our mouths to build and teach our children. Let our lives be the greatest tool to teach with.


"Let my words be life
Let my words be truth
I don't wanna say a word
Unless it points the world back to You." Hawk Nelson

" Oh Lord Jesus, I thank you for your comfort today. God I give all glory unto you. Lord help us be wise with our speech. Let us use words in edification and glorification to you. To build up and not put down. May be stand silent in our anger and hurt and let your love and peace flow through us instead. How good you are Heavenly Father. Thank you for all you are, all you give. -Amen"